Yes, we like to be heard, but deep down, we all know we could be better listeners. And when we think of self-improvement and healing, whether in modern science or traditional teachings, we think first about how to adjust the body, what to eat, or what medicines to take.

But what if simply listening more closely could unblock the essential areas of life in which we struggle?

In fact, we are all born with unique sound vibrations that can be powerful sources of strength, says Sanjeev Verma, Sonima’s meditation adviser.

“What I have discovered, through my meditative awakenings, is that every single human being is born with 108 sound vibrations,” Verma says. “These vibrations are embedded in you at the time of birth. As soon as you entered the whole world, the whole universe imprints on you not only the light of the planets, not only its electromagnetic fields and its energy, but also its sounds.”

But identifying and reconnecting with these individualized seed sounds can be difficult, especially in a multimedia world full of distractions. “Normally, these sound vibrations are not being recognized by us, because they are deep inside us,” Verma says. “We must try a meditative state to hear these inner sounds.”

The innovative new Ananta mobile application, which launched to the public this week, is specifically designed to help people find their inner sounds and incorporate them into meditations that can help them across all areas of life. The Ananta app is now available on both the Apple and Android platforms.

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Ananta is a Sanskrit word that means infinite and limitless, and this new meditation app focuses on using your sounds to more easily enhance your life, fulfill your desires, and become limitless with the practice of mantras that are unique to your goals.

While each of us is born with the 108 sound vibrations, Verma says, there are six to 10 that most influence all aspects of our lives. The unique feature of the Ananta app is that it guides users through an onboarding process that allows them to quickly identify their core six to 10 seed sounds, and then customize them around specific goals.

Once users have downloaded the app, they choose their birth details and then a specific purpose. Ananta then generates the appropriate seed sound and a related meditation mantra that Verma recommends people listen to for 10 to 20 minutes every day over a 28-day cycle for maximum results.

“The human cycle is 28 days, and so as you listen, it raises your vibrational field and then you start to have a higher experience,” Verma says.

Ananta is designed to support beginner, intermediate, and advanced mediation experiences, and it focuses on six overall areas, with more specific purposes within each:

• Relaxation and stress relief
• Reducing anxiety
• Focus and productivity
• Being more mindful
• Healthy lifestyle
• Manifesting effects in your life

Users can try one customized mantra for free ongoing, and two more for 30 days. A full subscription unlocks many more unique meditations and ways to customize your goals and is $3.99 a month or $37.99 annually.

Every experience is highly customized to the individual and their seed sound that will unblock their challenges. Take career, for example. “You’ll go on the purpose screen, click ‘career,’ and select from some options,” Verma says. “That then identifies and leads you to your sound, which is the vibrational feel of your career. And that will be fixed. That is for you, and it’s fixed. And if somebody else uses that sound for their career, it’s just not for them, because theirs would be different than yours.”

Ready to listen? Download the sound-breaking new Ananta mediation app from the Apple or Android platforms.

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When I was younger, I thought that working hard and getting good grades would lead to a fulfilling job and help me advance up the ladder at work. But now that I’ve been employed for more than a decade, I find myself going through the motions of meaningless work, still facing student debt, and feeling like no matter how hard I work, I’m treading water and not advancing. I could leave, but I worry that every corporate job is like this. What do I do?

Sincerely,
Unfulfilled

Dear Unfulfilled,

It sounds like you’re in a struggle that many young adults share. These are the challenges of modern times, in which you are trying to lay down solid roots and advance in a career. You are frustrated, working away with your wheels spinning in the mud on what seems like a dead-end road. At the same time, you’re working hard to stay employed and chip away at compounding student debt. When we consider all of these factors together, it makes sense that you have concluded that life is unfulfilling and devoid of real meaning and purpose. It all feels rather futile, I imagine.

Nevertheless, there remains an opportunity in this strife to author a meaningful existence for your life. To author one’s existence is an intention that you must choose to live by every day. This kind of existential authorship requires you to be a present, creative, brave, and active participant in your life.

In your question, there is a dilemma in which you must choose between carving out a new path for yourself or establishing meaning in your current situation. Each of these two paths has pros and cons. I invite you to take some time to map those out on your own.

My goal is to give you a dialectical behavior therapy (DBT, as described by Lane Pederson) method to create a more fulfilling life path. This method is rooted in the notion that human beings are creatures of habit and benefit from consistent and predictable routines. Therefore, I recommend keeping your sleep, wake, and mealtimes consistent throughout the week.

However, the shadow side of developing consistent routines is that you can get bored and burn out. If you get too rigid, you will likely rebel against the beneficial structures that you are creating. Hence, according to Pederson, you must also infuse your routine with open space and time during which you can be creative and unstructured.

Related: A Brilliant Way to Organize Your Calendar for Less Stress

You see, within our lives is a tension between the things that we must do to survive and those activities that bring us joy and meaning. To maximize our sense of leading a fulfilling life, these two poles must exist in a balanced relationship.

It sounds like your focus is currently on the “must do” end of the scale, and weight is needed on the “meaningful activities” side. Therefore, a helpful and immediate step forward is to intentionally add back into your life those things that you love to do. If you do not know what those are, then it is a time to be playful and experiment with different activities and see what brings you joy. Be curious and explore!

A straightforward and effective way of protecting yourself from boredom is to put creative playtime on your schedule. During this time, be spontaneous, go with the flow, and do something unexpected and exciting. Also remember that (aside from sleeping, waking, and eating) every day does not have to be identical.

From this general framework of a daily routine, there are other components recommended in this DBT approach, based on Pederson’s work. For instance, part of your structured routine must include a commitment to fulfilling ongoing responsibilities. You will increase your success if you break long-term responsibilities into smaller actionable steps to be completed weekly. So create a daily, weekly, and monthly action plan to ensure you are meeting your life duties.

Be sure your responsibilities are also inclusive of activities oriented toward fulfilling your life values, goals, and plans. By attending to these, you will begin to notice a growing sense of fulfillment. Integrate daily practices that enhance the mind, body, and spiritual well-being. These practices can include many different things, such as meditation, yoga, exercise, and time in nature.

Then consider what rituals or traditions you would like to add to or restore in your life. These can be traditions connected with the seasons, holidays, or simple daily ones like a morning coffee or tea ritual. The possibilities are endless. Ask yourself, what interests me? How can I keep life fresh? What can I do to be playful and engage in something new, even if it’s driving home via a different route? When you identify these, place them on your daily schedule and do these activities often. It is like putting money in the bank that increases your vitality, and you can make withdrawals when you are attending to those “have to” tasks.

Related: 3 Easy Ways to Spark Joy Without Cleaning a Thing

The last component Pederson outlines is to envision a wholesome, full, and fulfilling life. The best advice I have here is to keep your end goals in focus every day, and, at the same time, stay patient, dedicated, and steadfast in your pursuit. You must remember that developing a fulfilling life plan and path takes time and repetition. Forgive yourself when you fall back on old habits, and then get right back at it without any energy expended on judging yourself.

You may consider keeping a journal or notebook that you can use to map out the above components and have a writing space that you can refer to in order to hold yourself accountable.

Life is continuously happening and will continue to do so with or without anyone’s participation. The constant invitation to us is to take charge and dive into life, knowing every moment is precious and tomorrow is not guaranteed. We must never waste a single moment!

I thank you for writing in with your inquiry. It is a question for an entire generation of folks working to carve out a meaningful and fulfilling future. I wish you the best on your journey!

Warmly,
John

References:
Pederson, Lane. The Expanded Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training Manual, 2nd Edition: DBT for Self-Help and Individual & Group Treatment Settings. PESI Publishing & Media. Kindle Edition.

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This month, you will see new opportunities coming your way from the most unexpected fronts. Your mantra for success will be diplomacy and fairness in everything that you do. In any situation, it is best to not only look at both sides but to also consider others’ viewpoints before yours. Your professional and unbiased approach will garner trust from others, helping you develop new, long-term relationships.

The intensity and passion with which you handle complicated tasks will easily impress even your severe critics. Although every human being is imperfect, now is the time to improve yourself by focusing on things that you have ignored. Everyone has the ability to create something meaningful—do something that can leave a major impact on others’ lives. The cosmic energy guides you through this month with new hope and optimism as you undertake new responsibilities. Challenges that have restricted you from moving forward are a thing of the past, and you approach the New Year with fresh confidence. Embrace it, as new circumstances bring unprecedented possibilities to reach new heights.

Monthly Mantra: “Om Sri Maha Lakshmiyei Namaha”

Pronunciation: Om shree mah-ha laksh-mee-yie nam-ha

Meaning: Salutations to the goddress Lakshmi, the energy of abundance.

SUN SIGN OF THE MONTH

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Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Sagittarius is the ninth sign of the Zodiac. Its symbol is the archer. Sagittarii are highly original and imaginative with modern outlooks. They know their goals very well and have the capacity to reach those objectives without the help of others. Ruled by Jupiter, those born under this sign are go-getters who are highly independent, energetic, dependable, generous, and focused toward long-term career goals. Jupiter is one of the largest planets of the Zodiac, and much like its sign lord, a Sagittarius can never think and behave small. Ambitious and full of life, Sagittarii desire doing something grand so that generations can remember them forever.

A Sagittarius male is confident, active, and possesses a great sense of humor. He is witty and in a joyful mood most of the time. Having both high tastes and goals, he’s never satisfied with mediocre results. A Sagittarius male loves success and likes to be in high society. He has great confidence in himself and wants to achieve a lot in a very short period of time. He is spiritual and especially curious to know more about the mysteries of life. A Sagittarius male hates to lead a boring life and therefore is always up to something exciting. He’s also always ready to help others and especially goes out of his way to help people who are younger or subordinate.

The strong Sagittarius female goes after all that she desires. Discontent with anything that comes to her, she has a fighting spirit and will struggle and toil until she reaches her destination. Adventurous and daring, she has the stamina to excel in sports. She’s also charming, highly dynamic, and full of innovative ideas. Possessing great inner strength, she doesn’t find it difficult to overcome any life situation. Her intelligence, confidence, and creativity always keep her in the forefront—a good thing, as she’s active socially and easily gains attention. Although very caring to the person she loves, she’s also hostile to those she dislikes.

This month, with sign lord Jupiter transiting through Sagittarius, you will be simple, responsible, trustworthy, creative, and intelligent. Your sharp mind will constantly search for new ideas, but you need to control your tendency to be restless and stubborn at times. The New Moon in your sign leads to many beneficial business partnerships and alliances. You will improve your financial gains through investments and new ventures. Although family responsibilities will escalate and people at home will be more demanding, your loved one will give you his or her time, services, and even financial support, if needed. A real estate transaction toward the month’s end should bring excellent monetary gains.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 2, 11, 27
Lucky Gemstone – Pearl

Sagittarius Celebrity: Bruce Lee, Tina Turner, Jane Austen, John F. Kennedy, Frank Sinatra, Jane Fonda, Brad Pitt, Miley Cyrus, Jimi Hendrix, Steven Spielberg, Jim Morrison, Jeff Bridges, Winston Churchill

Ruling Planet: Jupiter
Symbol: The archer
Element: Fire
Lucky Color: Yellow
Lucky Stone: Yellow sapphire
Best Professions/Fields: Teaching, law, accounting, finance
Body Parts: Hips, thighs
Good Points: Independent, honest, generous, fearless, broadminded
Bad Points: Aggressive, careless, over-confident, short-tempered
Soul Mates: Aries, Cancer, Leo
Just Say No: Taurus, Capricorn

MONTHLY HOROSCOPE FOR EACH SIGN

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Aries (March 21 to April 19)

This December, you will be charming, ambitious, talented, helpful, and highly methodical in your work. Your efficiency will increase so much that others will struggle to keep up with your pace, but you need to curb your tendencies to be extravagant, jealous, and hypocritical at times. You will travel excessively, or do business with people who live far from your home. You’re soon likely to enter a period of financial and professional growth. It’s also a good period to re-assess your investments. Home renovation or construction-related activities will be high on your agenda. Chronic patients definitely need to be more careful about their health. Preventive medicines should not be avoided at any cost.

Lucky Days – Tuesday
Lucky Dates – 1, 10, 22
Lucky Gemstone – Ruby

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Taurus (April 20 to May 20)

Due to strong Venus, you will be charming, energetic, elegant, practical, dignified, and ambitious. You will enjoy your independent and free lifestyle in everything that you do. This allows you to gradually move toward your life goals, but you need to check your tendency to be spendthrift, dominating, and restless at times. With full Moon in your sign, this period promises a lot of success and happiness. Whatever you do, your income and efficiency will show remarkable improvement. With romance in the air, your beloved will seek a commitment. Avoid agreeing to be a standing surety or guarantee for others, as it will lead to embarrassment and legal problems. Property-related matters will take shape during the month’s end and prove to be beneficial.

Lucky Days – Saturday
Lucky Dates – 5, 16, 21, 28
Lucky Gemstone – Jade

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Gemini (May 21 to June 20)

Due to the strength of sign lord Mercury, you will be confident, responsible, trustworthy, intelligent, and broadminded. You will enjoy intellectual conversation and social service, but you need to control your tendency to be extra nervous and restless at times. An abundance of energy will help you complete many important projects without others’ assistance. Your income will fluctuate more than usual but overall be as expected. Distant travel, perhaps overseas, brings joy and happiness along with a possible reunion with an old contact. Be careful how you handle your partners. New partnerships seem certain, but hasty decisions will bring losses.

Lucky Days – Friday
Lucky Dates – 3, 12, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Diamond

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Cancer (June 21 to July 22)

This month, you will be energetic, charming, ambitious, talented, dignified, and highly methodical. You are independent by nature and people admire you for your ability to make bold decisions, but you need to curb your tendency to be stubborn, extravagant, and hasty. Your hectic work schedule leaves little time for socializing this month. However, you will enjoy the time you do get to spend with friends and family members. Your creative ideas will easily attract people, and foreign transactions or related matters will prove beneficial this time. Romance will flourish—some lovebirds will even go for matrimonial alliance. Despite stress and tension, your health will be fine.

Lucky Days – Wednesday
Lucky Dates – 8, 15, 22, 31
Lucky Gemstone – Emerald

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Leo (July 23 to August 22)

This December, you will feel bold, energetic, strong, and determined. You’ll be fond of physical comforts, luxuries, and entertainment. Friends will admire you because you are extremely helpful and have a trustworthy nature, but you need to check your tendency to be inconstant and stubborn at times. It is likely that you will start a new venture that will generate income from several sources. The people you will meet through your work will inspire you to do your best. A good flow of finances will improve your living comforts and savings. An infatuation with the opposite sex will come as a surprise, and it will take some time before you start thinking straight again. The health of your parents will cause some concern, but there is nothing to be worried about.

Lucky Days – Sunday
Lucky Dates – 4, 11, 27
Lucky Gemstone – Ruby

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Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

This December, you will feel active, authoritative, dashing, confident, and energetic. You’ll have a pleasant and charming personality and be fond of an expensive and high-quality lifestyle. There’s nothing wrong with that, but control your tendency to be restless, extravagant, and moody at times. As your financial security will be very important, you’ll take action to increase your earnings. With the help of important people, you will start new ventures, which you develop and see to completion with your hard work and dedication. You might have to travel to a distant place due to work or family obligations. Students will perform well in academics and be rewarded for their contributions to social work. For those who are married, don’t worry: Despite your erratic behavior, your spouse remains cooperative.

Lucky Days – Wednesday
Lucky Dates – 9, 14, 26, 30
Lucky Gemstone – Emerald

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Libra (September 23 – October 22)

This December, you will be active, energetic, confident, charming, diplomatic, and highly practical. You are a great thinker, and people from various walks of life seek your advice, but you need to check your tendency to be too outspoken, jealous, and restless at times. You also need to be conservative in your spending and avoid useless luxuries and comforts. You can expect a lot from your family members and not be disappointed. Look forward to a very memorable and romantic time with your beloved. The two of you will develop a deeper understanding and respect for each other. A distant journey later this month seems most certain for some of you.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 2, 10, 28
Lucky Gemstone – Opal

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Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

This month, with the strong position of Mars, you will be confident, dynamic, active, bold, creative, and emotional. People who are close to you know that you are a wonderful host and you love to entertain, but you need to control your tendency to be stubborn and extravagant at times. The organization you work for will undergo many changes that will be highly beneficial for you but will also alter your daily routine. Although financial gains will improve, you need to save more, so try to reduce your expenses. Businessmen will find attractive schemes to make quick money. During this period, expecting mothers should take extra care of their health. Proper medication and diet should not be ignored at any cost.

Lucky Days – Tuesday
Lucky Dates – 9, 18, 25
Lucky Gemstone – Red Coral

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Capricorn (December 22 to January 19)

With sign lord Saturn about to enter Capricorn, you will have extra energy, enthusiasm, creativity, and discipline in your work. Your determination and hard work single you out, leading you to become an important representative for your organization. People will look to you for inspiration and decisions. You possess enormous capabilities, and your friends and colleagues respect you immensely, but you need to check your tendency to be rigid, extravagant, and jealous at times. You’ll also be in the limelight at social gatherings, where you’ll make new friends and important contacts. Your health seems fine, but even then, it is recommended that you take preventive medication if necessary.

Lucky Days – Saturday
Lucky Dates – 6, 12, 19, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Blue Sapphire

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Aquarius (January 20 to February 18)

This month, you will be intelligent, energetic, confident, enthusiastic, and courageous. You possess a sharp memory and amazing technical skills, but you need to check your tendency to be short-tempered and vindictive at times. There may be miscommunication with your employer or seniors this month. Be sure to check your work before you give it to them. Although this will not be an easy period, support and help from friends and family members will fill you with new energy and make things much more comfortable. Gains from property transaction, investments, and gifts cannot be ruled out.

Lucky Days – Saturday
Lucky Dates – 4, 12, 25
Lucky Gemstone – Aquamarine

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Pisces (February 19 to March 20)

The strong position of Jupiter will make you authoritative, confident, determined, responsible, and creative. You will have a very fine sense of style, and your clothes will represent your elegant personality. However, you need to curb your tendency to be careless and spendthrift at times. This December, you will enjoy meeting new people and visiting new places. Your creativity will be at its best, and you will have the energy to solve any problem with conviction and dedication. As your beloved will be your major source of inspiration, you should do things that you both enjoy to strengthen your bond. Family members will stand by you and provide love and affection.

Lucky Days – Thursday
Lucky Dates – 3, 12, 21, 29
Lucky Gemstone – Topaz

>>For a private session with Sanjeev Verma, the meditation master, life coach, spiritual master and Vedic astrologer, visit Sanjeevsv.com or call +1-519-721-1234.

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My dad has gone through some hard times with his health in the last year, and it’s really changed his perspective. It seems like he always finds the negative in everything. To be honest, being around him brings me down too. After all he’s been through and at his age, I want him to appreciate the good things he still has. Is there a way to get through to him and change his outlook? And if not, how can I avoid “catching” his negativity when I spend time with him?

Thank you,
Seeking the Positive

Dear Seeking the Positive,

Thank you for writing in. I can feel how much you love and care about your dad. I imagine it is tough to balance holding your care and concern for him while also protecting yourself from his negativity. Your question has a lot of depth, and when I read it, the words of the famous psychologist Rick Hanson came to mind. He teaches that, “the brain is like Velcro for negative experiences, but Teflon for positive ones.” He further points out that our experiences can be shaded by a negativity bias.

In simple terms, the negativity bias is a research-based concept that suggests we humans seem to be more influenced by negative perceptions than by positive ones. Perhaps this is because, as we evolved, noticing threats served our survival better. Threat monitoring makes it so we can take evasive and protective action to stay safe and perpetuate our species. However, the pitfall in this is that if all we notice is the negative, that is the direction in which our attention and energy will go. Therefore, we must be intentional about discovering and seeing the good that is also around us in moments where we are indeed safe.

If we hold this model in mind when we think about your dad, one hypothesis is that the illness may have amplified his predisposition to notice what is negative over what is good. He is on alert mode and perhaps more attuned to what is wrong internally and externally. I know this sort of insight doesn’t make his negativity feel any better for you, but perhaps developing this awareness can call forth greater compassion for where he is at. It also doesn’t mean that you should not address it or set effective boundaries with him. Maintaining healthy boundaries is an act of love, not a punishment. They protect the relationship.

Related: Help Me Save This Friendship

It is true that the extent to which you can transform your dad’s perspective may be limited. He must want that for himself. However, you do have control over how you would like to be in your relationship with him and how you can let go of whatever negative stuff he puts on or around you. It is on this domain that I offer the following contemplation.

A Practice to Focus on the Positive

The first step is to open psychological space and freedom by sitting in stillness and connecting to deep breathing. So take a few wholesome, long, slow, deep breaths that flow down into your belly and pelvis, and draw up some of the natural good healing medicine from the earth. Carry that up through you to awaken compassion in your heart.

Next, call into awareness a recent event that challenged you. Observe what interpretations you hold about this event with respect to yourself, to others, and to the world in general. Notice where you may be caught in some form of negativity. Does this challenging experience spark any negative statements about yourself, others, or the world? Are you judging? Shoulding? Othering? Craving, desiring, or wanting in a way that is perpetuating further hurt or suffering? If so, can you sit in the space of these challenging thoughts and emotions with a soft recognition that it is OK to have them? Then, can you recognize that this is a moment of hurt for you—and allow it? Take a few moments here and be gentle with the breath.

When you feel centered, proceed by setting the intention that you are going to make a conscious move toward growth.

The next step is to reflect on this same experience to determine if you are neglecting other important details of it due to the negativity bias. What parts of the experience may have some good in them? Do not dismiss this possibility without looking. There is likely something good in the situation, or if not in the situation, in the people involved, how you worked your way through it, or how you may be able to grow as a result of the experience. What comes up for you?

When you have identified some good in this experience, then let it steep. Give yourself permission to pause here, letting yourself savor and embody this goodness. Much like it requires time to let a good cup of coffee or loose-leaf tea steep to maximize the delicious flavor, we can let ourselves steep in our positive cognitions, sensations, and emotions resulting from our experiences. When you feel that you have let the positive soak in, take a moment to set an intention to carry this good, healing energy forward with you.

When you are ready, close out the practice by coming back to the breath and having a good, long exhale through the mouth. An audible sigh is a great way to signify the letting go and completely release the meditation.

As you move forward from this practice and in life, stay true to this intention to do your best to stay alert to the good that is happening around in all moments, and put your focus there. The more you focus your lens, the more clearly you will see.

Thank you again for writing in. I wish you the best on your journey!

Warmly,
John

Acknowledgements:
The author wishes to acknowledge the teachings of Rick Hanson, PhD, and Kristin Neff, PhD, for their scholarly contributions that have influenced this author in his own practice and formulating this article and related practice.

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As Jupiter begins its new zodiac cycle, you can look forward to new a beginning. Jupiter is the planet of wealth, knowledge, wisdom, spirituality, and generosity. It is known as a planet of abundance, therefore whatever your ultimate goals in life may be, by doing the right karma, you will be helped by Jupiter to obtain magnified results. If you want money, then you will find plenty of options for earning more through a new opportunity; if your life goal is knowledge and information, then you will interact and become associated with highly educated and intellectual people.

The cosmic energy is also such that you will find new reasons to engage in deep self-introspection and determine your true life goals. This new level of thought and action will push you toward more literary pursuits than ever before. You will gain a new inner strength, boosting your confidence to an all-time high. This rational and organized way of handling complex situations will bring positive professional results. However, as Mercury remains retrograde and combust, it is best to avoid controversies and finding faults in others. Stay away from gossip and avoid meddling in other people’s affairs. Instead, focus on your long-term gains and try not to offend others.

Monthly Mantra: “Om Gum Gurobhyo Namaha”

Pronunciation: Om gum goo-roo-byo nahm-aya

Meaning: Salutations to that which removes darkness from ignorance.

SUN SIGN OF THE MONTH

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Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Scorpio is the eighth sign of the Zodiac and its symbol is the Scorpion. Scorpio natives are highly independent, active, energetic, courageous, multi-talented, and generous. They’re also very mysterious—it’s never easy to know how they truly feel. In fact, it’s not inaccurate to say that Scorpio is the most secretive sign of the Zodiac and therefore whenever you deal with a Scorpio native, it’s best to not take him or her at face value.

As Scorpio is ruled by planet Mars, Scorpio natives like to move about in a group. Being adventurous and outgoing, they believe in enjoying life to the fullest and don’t mind taking risks. They are good observers and if things are not to their liking, they do not shy away from revolting. While they are highly sincere and devoted in a relationship, they can be highly possessive and jealous as well.

The Scorpio male is elegant, charming, confident, intelligent, and has a strong willpower. His natural charisma attracts others to him. As Scorpio is a fixed and water sign, he does not express his feelings openly. Instead, he tends to wait and watch his feelings until he is fully confident and sure about the other person. But once he becomes comfortable with you, he can talk about many different subjects. His knowledge is vast, and he likes to continue learning and dig deeper to the core of any issue he discusses. He’s particularly interested in spirituality and other occult sciences. He’s also very persuasive and likes to control those around him.

Highly graceful, charming, stylish, and seductive, the Scorpio woman is very independent by nature and has a mind of her own. She is born with leadership qualities and rarely follows others. In anything she does, if she is not in the role of a leader, she loses interest in the work. Because security is always important to the Scorpio woman, she prefers men who are stronger and more superior than she is. She is attracted to intelligent and smart people, hence she includes few people in her group. She is ambitious and hardworking; that is why she can attain recognition and professional stature easily. She can do extremely well as a chef, medical provider, entertainer, and politician.

With New Moon in your sign, this November is the perfect time to put in maximum efforts to reap long-term rewards. Your family members will be supportive and assist you in making important decisions. Pending jobs and projects will be completed to your satisfaction. Your health will be normal, but the health of a family member may cause stress and anxiety. A distant journey—preferably overseas—brings financial benefits and an opportunity to meet eminent and influential people.

Lucky Days – Tuesday
Lucky Dates – 3, 9, 12, 22
Lucky Gemstone – Red Coral

Libra Celebrity: Bill Gates, Hillary Clinton, Charles Bronson, Prince Charles, Danny Devito, Whoopi Goldberg, Demi Moore, Meg Ryan, Leonardo Dicaprio, Julia Roberts, Dolph Lundgren

Ruling Planet: Mars
Symbol: Scorpion
Element: Water
Lucky Color: Red
Lucky Stone: Red coral
Best Professions/Fields: Cook, surgeon, police officer, military, firefighter
Body Parts: Sex organs
Good Points: Strong willpower, courageous, confident, honest
Bad Points: Secretive, hasty, violent, ruthless, suspicious, intolerant
Soul Mates: Cancer, Pisces
Just Say No: Gemini, Aquarius

MONTHLY HOROSCOPE FOR EACH SIGN

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Aries (March 21 to April 19)

The million-dollar smile you always wear makes it very easy for you to make friends and win favors. You are smart and talented, but you need to control your tendency to be stubborn, arrogant, and extravagant this month. With Full Moon in your sign, you will find many good investment opportunities. Be highly judicious in making your decisions and don’t share your ideas and plans with people you can’t trust. Businessmen will expand into new and more profitable ventures. This also seems to be a highly rewarding period for journalists, doctors, and marketing professionals. If you have a family, your spouse and children will be supportive but require additional attention from you. For those eligible, wedding bells seem likely toward the month’s end.

Lucky Days – Sunday
Lucky Dates – 5, 12, 26
Lucky Gemstone – Garnet

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Taurus (April 20 to May 20)

Venus makes you smart, practical, honest, methodical, and emotional this November. You will be helpful and sincere with your friends and enjoy enormous respect in your group, but you need to check your tendency to be rigid and jealous at times. If you concentrate on your priorities this month, your efforts will bring the results you desire. New plans and ventures will start on a positive note, while past investments will fetch returns and long-pending property disputes will settle amicably. Unexpected gifts and presents from near ones and friends will keep you in high spirits. Things will be pleasant on the family front, as your children and spouse will provide you with love and affection. While your health seems fine, it’s recommended that you avoid overeating and alcohol.

Lucky Days – Friday
Lucky Dates – 1, 10, 16, 28
Lucky Gemstone – Opal

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Gemini (May 21 to June 20)

Mercury makes you intelligent, energetic, confident, and enthusiastic. You have the ability to make firm decisions—and once you do, they last forever. You are strong and diplomatic, but you need to check your tendency to sometimes be short-tempered and vindictive. You will make major gains this November if you associate with creative people. With your performance at its best, you will easily impress your seniors with your dedication and ability to handle jobs that require immense responsibility. Property transactions, construction, or renovations will be high on your agenda. Moments at home will not be all that pleasant, and you will suffer due to the very unpredictable behavior of your spouse. Gratefully, spiritual gains will provide solace and comfort. A journey abroad is also on the cards for some of you.

Lucky Days – Wednesday
Lucky Dates – 6, 14, 25
Lucky Gemstone – Emerald

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Cancer (June 21 to July 22)

As your sign lord is Moon, you are original, active, responsible, trustworthy, and very simple. You love a free and spontaneous life and have very original ideas, but you need to control your tendency to dominate, overspend, and be destructive at times. This month, unexpected expenses will play on your mind. Investments in real estate will prove highly rewarding, however, indulging in speculation will be detrimental and should be avoided. Your interactions with like-minded people will bring you new and innovative ideas, and people you hardly know will approach you for help. Children will be a major source of happiness.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 4, 11, 20, 30
Lucky Gemstone – Pearl

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Leo (July 23 to August 22)

Being born under the Sun, you will be highly imaginative, practical, emotional, and generous this month. You will have a very sharp mind, an exceptional power to grasp concepts, and believe that it is never too late to learn. You have a pleasing personality and manners, but you need to check your tendency to be extravagant and moody at times. Although new plans and projects will allure you, instant gains might not be possible. Investment is definitely recommended, but sudden losses due to thoughtless decisions cannot be ruled out. New romance for some seems likely, while others will get married. Distant pilgrimage is certain later in the month; however, don’t be too friendly with strangers and avoid disclosing your plans, as the chances of deceit are very strong. Be especially careful while lending money and take extra care of your jewelry and precious gifts.

Lucky Days – Sunday
Lucky Dates – 2, 10, 21
Lucky Gemstone – Ruby

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Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Mercury makes you energetic, ambitious, dignified, and intelligent. Your outstanding personality gifts you with the ability to make many friends. Others always appreciate your sincerity and commitment, but you need to check your tendency to sometimes be overly ambitious and jealous. This November, new money-making ventures prove highly lucrative. Your financial position will improve remarkably, and you will spend more on luxuries to increase your comfort level. Foreign trips will also bring monetary gains, while investment in stocks and real estate is recommended for long-term gains. Throughout this month, your spouse will be cooperative and shower you with love and affection. Marriage proposals seem likely for those eligible.

Lucky Days – Wednesday
Lucky Dates – 6, 18, 27
Lucky Gemstone – Moonstone

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Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Ruled by Venus, you are energetic, jovial, reliable, and highly organized. You possess a magnetic appeal and are very fond of accepting challenges, but you need to check your tendency to be moody, timid, and spendthrift at times. This month, new friendships and contacts will develop, and someone close to you will bring unexpected opportunities. Financial gains will also accrue from past investments. It seems to be a wonderful period to do things that you really enjoy and that make you feel good. A distant journey for pleasure or pilgrimage seems likely later in November. Your health will remain good, but the health of an aged family member will concern you.

Lucky Days – Friday
Lucky Dates – 6, 15, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Diamond

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Sagittarius (November 22 to December 21)

Jupiter blesses you with a lot of energy, sensitivity, generosity, and wisdom. Your ability to make quick decisions makes you highly respected, but you need to check your tendency to be restless, hasty, and timid at times. This November, as Jupiter enters your sign, your loved ones will do things that will please you. Your energy level and confidence will be high, allowing you to complete more work in less time. Distant travel will bring pleasure and rewards. Despite some initial hiccups, your health will be more or less fine. Spend time practicing meditation and yoga for remarkable gains.

Lucky Days – Thursday
Lucky Dates – 3, 12, 22
Lucky Gemstone – Yellow Sapphire

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Capricorn (December 22 to January 19)

This November, you’ll be highly energetic, independent, ambitious, and willing to make bold decisions. You will be extremely helpful and enjoy socializing with people who have similar views, but you also need to check your tendency to sometimes be shy, introverted, and lazy. Your imagination and skills will do wonders for you, and your creativity will help you accomplish difficult tasks. Some excellent opportunities will come through your association with people who hold position of authority, and your rewards will be commensurate with your efforts. It’s not a very favorable period for a matrimonial alliance, but exciting news from children can be expected toward the end of the month.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 2, 10, 15, 26
Lucky Gemstone – Blue Sapphire

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Aquarius (January 20 to February 18)

Being blessed with Saturn’s energy, you are independent, intelligent, and friendly. You possess a unique sense of humor that makes you very popular in your group. You dislike arguments and confrontation, but you need to check your tendency to be jealous, introverted, and selfish at times. This month, romantic entanglement will be pleasant and chances to enter into a matrimonial alliance are very strong. New ventures and partnerships will be profitable. Religious feelings will arise, leading you to embark on a pilgrimage later in the month. Expect gifts and goodies both in cash and kind, but some unforeseen expenses will take you by surprise.

Lucky Days – Thursday
Lucky Dates – 10, 16, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Topaz

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Pisces (February 19 to March 20)

This November, you will be cheerful, confident, assertive, and gifted with remarkable imagination and talent. However, you need to control your tendency to sometimes be erratic, hypocritical, and jealous. The efforts that you put forth will bring excellent results. Romance will be on the top of your list, and a new intimate alliance for those currently unattached seems strong. Your financial condition will improve as you pick up jobs involving higher responsibility and position. Some exhilarating news from distant relations will boost the spirits of your entire family. Travel and journey will be highly pleasurable.

Lucky Days – Tuesday
Lucky Dates – 5, 11, 21, 30
Lucky Gemstone – Red Coral

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I often look back on my life and think of all the regrets I have. There’s a list of things I wish I had done instead of what I actually did. What can I do to let go of the past and accept that I cannot change it?

From,
Stuck in the Past

Dear Stuck in the Past,

Thank you for writing in. I think most of us have thought about our personal histories in the way you describe and, indeed, the facts of the past are not something we can change. However, we can improve our relationship to how we currently hold ourselves and our history, and this is what we will focus on here.

In reflecting on our past, we may fall into a trap known as the hindsight bias. This is our tendency to judge our past experiences from the perspective of our current knowledge and skills. This perspective can cause distress. When we apply our existing knowledge to the past, we may conclude that we should have known better or done something different to prevent the thing from happening.

This type of thinking can lead to false conclusions. These erroneous conclusions do not consider the possibility that the adverse event may have happened anyway, or at a different time. Furthermore, we must consider that most people act with their best knowledge and skill set at the time. Therefore, it is unfair to compare your past self to your current, more developed self.

Remembering and understanding this bias is a path toward making peace with the past and freeing up our energy to be intentional in the present moment. The hindsight bias sounds useful from a theoretical stance, but how can we liberate ourselves from unhelpful beliefs we have developed?

The remainder of this article describes a meditative process on how to let go through self-compassion. You will need a quiet space, a journal, and a moderate amount of time to complete this practice with integrity.

A Meditation Practice to Let Go of the Past

1. Take a few moments to quiet down and observe your breathing.

2. When you feel settled, call into attention a memory or event from your past that you feel able and ready to release.

3. When you have this event or memory in your awareness, notice how it affects you. Record what images, physical sensations, emotions, or thoughts come up for you. Typically aspects from our past that haunt us cause some physical tightening, tensing, or gripping in our muscles. You may notice changes in your breathing pattern or perhaps alterations in your heart rate.

It may be helpful to pause here and record your observations. Then, for now, allow your experience to be as it is. There is nothing to do and nowhere to go with it. For the moment, let it be.

Related: How to Meditate Anywhere

4. Inquire within yourself and determine what other significant events may have been going on in your life that may have influenced your past actions. Do this with compassion and without self-blame or judgment. When you feel that you have gathered all this data, take a moment and write it down.

5. Next, reflect on how this event may be impacting how you think about yourself. How does it change your feelings about others or your relationships with them? How does it affect your current view of the world in general? For example, does this thing that you wish you had done contribute to you believing that you are blameworthy or flawed? Do you think that others think less of you? Does this experience shift your belief that the world is mostly a benevolent place where you can have a meaningful life? Again, pause and record your reflections.

6. Once you get these written down, see if you can challenge them. A couple of helpful questions you can ask yourself include: a) Are these 100% accurate interpretations? b) Are they serving your healing or keeping you stuck? If you conclude that these are false beliefs that keep you stuck, then it is a good idea to figure out an alternative version of them.

Challenging these thoughts will enable you to begin to release them. This process can be tricky. A helpful technique comes from self-compassion teacher Kristin Neff. She suggests thinking about what you might tell a close friend if they were suffering in a similar way as you are. I invite you to enter this inquiry and see what you find. Then, when you feel ready, write the statements down.

7. When you are ready for the next stage, shift toward offering the loving and kind statements that you would say to your friend to yourself. Recite these statements to yourself while sitting in meditation. Notice how offering these more loving phrases to yourself may shift your experience in contrast to where you were at the beginning of this entire practice. Again, notice your thoughts, emotions, and the physical sensations in your body. In what ways did bringing this element of self-compassion into your practice shift your experience? Do you feel more able to release the old, habitual ways of thinking about your past and trust in your new perspective?

You will likely have to work this practice several times over and modify it in any way necessary to increase its resonance for you. Take your time and be patient and kind with yourself.

Thank you for writing in with your question. I wish you the best on this journey.

Many blessings,
John

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“You are going to mess this up. You always mess things up,” they say. “You will fail. You ruined things. You are too old to do that. You are not as pretty as her. You are so dumb.”

They are my inner critic. They sound like a narration behind all my activities, but especially the ones that are challenging, difficult, new, and scary.

Sometimes, when I feel a little stronger, I summon some different voices from the depth to challenge them. Sometimes these voices try and conquer the inner critic by force:

“Shut up! You suck! You are wrong! I will succeed! I am smart! I am pretty!”

Sometimes my inner cheerleader tries to reason with my inner critic:

“Yes, I’ve made mistakes, but this time I really think I can do it. This could all go badly, but I still think I should try? Right?”

During these moments, it becomes an epic back-and-forth conversation between the inner critic and the inner cheerleader. These conversations leave me feeling distracted, frenetic, lonely, and exhausted. All I want to do is escape into my phone or eight hours of Netflix.

Sound familiar? We all carry around inner critics who cause us a lot of pain and suffering. The good news is that Buddhist wisdom offers us a way out of this suffering that is different than running away from it or trying to beat it down with force. The way out is through.

Consider this story from Tibetan Buddhist tradition about a monk named Milarepa: Milarepa lived alone in the mountains. On his way back from gathering wood one day, he arrived at his hut to see it filled to the brim with ferocious demons. Demons were on the table, on the floor—they covered every square inch. Milarepa freaked out. He chased the demons around, screaming and throwing things at them. But they only multiplied and became more ferocious.

Milarepa, terrified, got a hold of himself and switched course. “Okay, fine,” he said to them, “If you don’t want to leave, I will teach you the dharma (path of awakening).” He began to read to them from the Buddhist wisdom texts. After a while, Milarepa peeked up from his book. They were all still there, still terrifying, but now staring at him quietly.

Related: The Fascinating Science of Why You’re So Hard on Yourself

“Okay, okay,” he said. “You win. I surrender. You are allowed to stay. I will try and learn from you. Please teach me what you need to teach me.” One by one, they all disappeared with the exception of one, the largest, most ferocious of them all. Milarepa looked at this demon. The demon looked back, growling and snarling with his enormous jaws and fangs. Milarepa walked up to the demon and slowly laid his head down inside the demon’s mouth. The demon stepped back, bowed low to Milarepa, and disappeared.

Our inner demons are just as ferocious and tenacious as Milarepa’s. We live with them in the tiny huts of our minds, and they make us miserable and afraid. Yelling at them and cursing them out will never work. Reasoning with them by trying to use our inner cheerleader and relentless positivity will also never work. Listening to them and learning from them will get us a lot farther, but ultimately, we have to go deeper. We have to go as close as possible to our scariest demon, our meanest inner voice, and surrender.

What might that look like in real life? One of my life-long demons is jealousy. I have struggled with feeling jealous of other people whom I perceive to have more than me, that get more attention than me, or seem better than me in some way. This mostly comes out in relationships, where I have made many partners feel terrible with accusations and fights.

At the same time, for years, I felt so deeply ashamed of that jealousy and so horrified by it that I tried really hard to repress it (“Stop it, Yael! You are being ridiculous!”), to reason with it (“Jealousy is not helpful in this situation”), and even, begrudgingly, to co-exist with it in times of meditation (which has helped, but not entirely). Like Milerapa, the only times my jealousy has actually subsided in major ways have been when—as lovingly as possible—I went as close as possible to the feeling to see what was there.

What did I see when I got real close and cozy? What was in my jealousy? A tremendous fear of not being enough. The deep well of pain from feeling neglected and unseen as a child. Panic about the scarcity of love and my fear of not getting any. When I looked at these pains and fears, my heart opened to the jealousy and the poor little one inside who was feeling it. I tried to mentally wrap my arms around her. “Poor baby,” I said to myself. “Poor jealousy. I’m sorry I’ve been so cruel to you. I am here for you now.”

What does your inner critic look like? What are your pesky, ferocious, terrible demons? Can you summon the bravery to come closer, put down your weapons, and open your heart?

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These cosmic powers are likely to bring positive results. The conjunction of Venus and Mercury in the star of Rahu indicates the need to concentrate your creative energy on long-term goals and focus on what’s meaningful and important to you. Your patience, commitment, and hard work will lead to steady growth, so find what inspires you and build that up into something significant.

Jupiter is about to end its zodiac cycle as it enters its own sign, Sagittarius. This transit indicates the need to reassess and reevaluate your progress regularly. This way you can decide what you need to do and change to accomplish your goals. With Mars and Sun transiting through Virgo, you are likely to come up with new ideas that promise financial gains. The positive influence of stars will give you strong intuition, so trust your gut. Your unconventional approach and innovative ideas promise success.

The auspicious days of Navratri end October 6. October 8 is Dussehra, and Deepawali (the festival of lights) is October 27.

Monthly mantra: “Om Sri Maha Lakshmiyei Namaha.”

Pronunciation: Om shree mah-ha laksh-mee-yie nam-ha

Meaning: Salutations to the Goddess Lakshmi, the energy of abundance.

SUN SIGN OF THE MONTH

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Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Libra is the seventh sign of the Zodiac, and its symbol is the Scale. Librans are recognized as the most peace-loving and harmonious people and are known for their sincerity, commitment, and love for others. Being highly balanced in their approach, when confronted with a problem, they try to solve the matter amicably and without taking sides. Librans are true party animals who know how to make the best out of each and every situation. They want to experiment with new things, whether that’s food, fashion, or meeting people. Bring a movable sign, they like to travel a lot and hardly ever stay at one place for a long duration. They are charming, witty, and rarely in a gloomy mood. Ruled by Venus, they’re also highly emotional and sensitive. They have a strong desire for love, compassion, and understanding, yet because they’re an idealistic sign, it’s hard to satisfy Libran natives.

A Libran male is strongly built, with a magnetic personality and sense of humor that pulls a crowd at any social event. Being highly creative, he’s interested in acting and music and is a great entertainer. He also enjoys a large social circle and makes a good host. A Libran man is highly fashion-conscious and has high taste. He has very strong humanitarian qualities and expresses them in a very positive way. Being ambitious, he works hard to achieve his results. However, a Libran male should not undertake more responsibility then he can handle, preferably seeking balance between work and free time.

A Libran woman is the most feminine sign of the Zodiac. She is graceful, elegant, charming, sensitive, stylish, multitalented, and stands out in the crowd. She loves perfection, and this is manifested in everything she does. She also has great appreciation for art and surrounds herself with beautiful things. However, a Libran woman is hard to please because she cannot accept anything below her standards. If you win her favor, she is highly devoted in a relationship and is a good wife and mother. Her enormous talents give her exceptional strength. She can excel as a singer, artist, entertainer, or fashion designer, and also in finance and management.

A Libran can be trusted with a secret. With new moon in Libra this October, you will make new friends, and the relationships you establish at work will be lasting and lead to favorable results. With planets in your favor, gains from past and recent investments cannot be ruled out, but unless you spend sensibly, you are likely to remain in a financial crunch. If you have children, you will provide them with nothing but the best, and those with a spouse can expect thrilling news later in the month. Distant journeys, maybe overseas for some, will be highly pleasurable and rewarding. A spiritual person provides solace and mental peace.

Lucky Days – Friday
Lucky Dates – 2, 12, 18, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Zircon

Libra Celebrity: Will Smith, Michael Douglas, Catherine Zeta-Jones, Matt Damon, Kim Kardashian, Gwen Stefani, Kate Winslet, Alicia Silverstone, Sting, Sigourney Weaver, Alesha Dixon, Gwyneth Paltrow, Frieda Pinto

Ruling Planet: Venus
Symbol: The Scale
Element: Air
Lucky Colors: White, Blue
Lucky Stones: Diamond, Opal, White Sapphire
Best Professions/Fields: Fashion Designing, Beauty Parlor, Finance, Restaurant, Entertainer
Body Parts: Genitals
Good Points: Creative, Peace-Loving, Affectionate, Artistic, Fun-Loving
Bad Points: Erratic, Lazy, Unwise
Soul Mates: Gemini, Aquarius
Just Say No: Leo

MONTHLY HOROSCOPE FOR EACH SIGN

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Aries (March 21 to April 19)

Feeling full of energy and creativity, you will enjoy each day to its best as long as you control any urges to be restless, moody, or stubborn this month. Interactions with like-minded people will bring valuable knowledge, and professional changes—if made toward the middle of the month—will prove to be beneficial. Then, later in the month, real-estate transactions and new sources of income are likely to improve your financial position. Although you prefer to take the initiative in romance, your love life will depend more on the mood of your partner.

Lucky Days – Tuesday
Lucky Dates – 5, 10, 22
Lucky Gemstone – Red Coral

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Taurus (April 20 to May 20)

You will possess a charm that effortlessly attracts others and makes your presence felt at any gathering this October. Unexpected events at work place are likely to bother your mind, which will affect your future business plans and investments. Expect a very positive turnaround in your finances toward the middle of the month, and know that matters related to property will also bring you gains. In the meantime, stay within your budget. Renovation of the house or construction activities will be high on your agenda. Preventive medicines should not be avoided at any cost.

Lucky Days – Friday
Lucky Dates – 6, 13, 22, 27
Lucky Gemstone – Diamond

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Gemini (May 21 to June 20)

This October, your inability to gather properous and accurate information will lead to lots of embarrassment or losses. On the positive side, the creative ideas that you turn into reality will have long-lasting results. You’ll also make good investments, and realize more immediate returns on them. Romance will flourish—some lovebirds will even venture into a matrimonial alliance—while friends and close relatives will appreciate your sensitive and helpful nature. Despite tensions and stress, your health will be fine.

Lucky Days – Wednesday
Lucky Dates – 3, 16, 25
Lucky Gemstone – Jade

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Cancer (June 21 to July 22)

October will be full of exciting activities and opportunities, as you may visit new and distant places. A rise in your confidence and determination enables you to handle difficult tasks with ease. Interactions with people at parties and clubs you frequent will lead to stronger relationships. Some will find new romance and immensely enjoy the time they spend with that special person. You’ll spend more on entertainment and make valuable purchases for the house. Despite your hectic schedule, your health will be fine.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 6, 11, 19, 28
Lucky Gemstone – Moon Stone

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Leo (July 23 to August 22)

This October, your planets shine brightly, bringing success and prosperity on every venture you undertake. The organization you work for will undergo a few changes that strengthen your position in your group. New friends and interesting conversations will help improve your intellectual mind. Matrimonial alliance seems likely for some, and children will bring happy news later in the month.

Lucky Days – Thursday
Lucky Dates – 3, 16, 21
Lucky Gemstone – Garnet

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Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

This month, you will be highly religious and take special interest in social reforms. The organization you work for will not understand the challenging conditions that you toil under. You need to spend conservatively to meet your expenses, but some improvement in your financial position is certain later this month. Your spouse will be under great stress and require lots of your support. Pilgrimage or distant travel later this month cannot be ruled out. Plenty of gifts and presents from visiting guests will lift your spirits.

Lucky Days – Saturday
Lucky Dates – 1, 14, 22, 30
Lucky Gemstone – Opal

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Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Your work will offer you great opportunities to express your skills this October. However, certain changes will be essential. Take extra care of the important documents that you carry while traveling, as a few losses due to theft and hasty decisions seem likely. Business people should see their new plans and ventures implemented. You will be emotionally interested in someone whom you do not get to see very often, and a romantic entanglement will disturb your concentration and decision-making abilities. Property investment will be beneficial.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 5, 10, 21
Lucky Gemstone – Pearl

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Sagittarius (November 22 to December 21)

You will achieve a lot this month because of your systematic approach to life. You have many good qualities and are always trying to change for the better. Investments that you make will bring gains—but only in the long run. You will be asked to handle additional responsibilities and receive a boost to your income. When your spouse falls ill for a few days, it will be important for you to extend maximum help. A few loving words will make a world of difference to your relationship. Your confidence and morale reach new heights as you establish important contacts.

Lucky Days – Sunday
Lucky Dates – 6, 12, 18
Lucky Gemstone – Yellow Sapphire

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Capricorn (December 22 to January 19)

This month, your employer will have high expectations from you, adding tremendous pressure. Financial gains are certain, but do not share your business plans with people who have little to do with you, and avoid partnerships as much as possible. Romantically, your spouse will look after you well. The two of you will enjoy living and traveling together, and your strong relationship will strengthen throughout the month. If you have any legal problems, they will get sorted out to your satisfaction.

Lucky Days – Saturday
Lucky Dates – 8, 11, 18, 26
Lucky Gemstone – Blue Sapphire

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Aquarius (January 20 to February 18)

This October you will accept new challenges and set difficult goals for yourself, but you may find them hard to achieve because of your timidity and introverted tendencies. Work pressure will have you behaving erratically, and you must invest wisely, as unexpected gains and losses are foreseen. Those in artistic fields, advertising, or media will see remarkable career growth. If married, your spouse will be caring, loving, and affectionate. Pilgrimage toward the month-end provides you with comfort and solace. Take care of your health.

Lucky Days – Friday
Lucky Dates – 4, 13, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Opal

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Pisces (February 19 to March 20)

As sign lord Jupiter transits through Scorpio, you will be very straightforward in your speech and actions. And with full moon in your sign, you will be in a strong position at your place of work and assume even more authority. Family members and colleagues will be supportive. Your total earnings for the month will be excellent, but your expenses will be high as well, so continue to save and invest for the future. New contacts will develop through social activities, and the relationship with your spouse will be healthy and highly cordial. Your parents’ health may bring you moments of stress and anxiety.

Lucky Days – Tuesday
Lucky Dates – 6, 15, 23
Lucky Gemstone – Topaz

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Anytime I need to make a decision, it seems that I ask every single person close to me what they think I should do. I tell myself that I want to be fully informed and not miss any “blind spots” before I make a move. But even after I make my decision, I sometimes end up wondering if I did the right thing. Is this normal? And how do I stop all of this overthinking and think for myself?

With gratitude,

Crowd-sourcer

Dear Crowd-sourcer,

I think most of us can relate to your question in that we’ve likely felt challenged by a daunting decision at some point. What comes to me when I reflect on your words is the journey that every person must make toward trusting yourself and overcoming the fear of failing.

Self-trust is developed incrementally across time through practice and experience. My chosen route toward developing self-trust is mindfulness. In this context, mindfulness involves growing familiar with yourself and clarifying your values, wants, and desires. These critical dimensions of self-awareness are necessary to live a values-based and purpose-driven life. These elements are always alive within, and they are there to be discovered or remembered—we simply need to be awakened (or reawakened) to our inner guide.

The meditation practice is a process of lifting away barriers that we’ve built between our inner guide and our conscious awareness. It involves a quieting down in order to allow your inner guide to be heard. Here is a short and simple mindfulness practice, inspired by the work of American philosopher Eugene Gendlin to help move you toward discovering your authentic self and learning to trust yourself.

A Meditation for Learning to Trust Yourself

1. Find a comfortable, safe, quiet, private place where you will not be disturbed. Choose a relaxing position, whether that is sitting, standing, or lying down. Breathe and, if it feels OK for you, close your eyes. If not, practice with a soft gaze.

2. As you breathe, feel the breath as a doorway to presence. Take a few moments to gather your awareness through these natural breaths. Let the breath be exactly as it is. Feel that there is nothing to do in this moment other than settle in and breathe.

3. When you feel that you have reached a centered place, relax a hand or both hands onto your heart. As you do so, notice what you feel physically, mentally, and emotionally. This is your baseline state.

4. Now bring a situation to mind on which you need guidance. I recommend starting with an easier decision rather than a big one.

5. Visualize this situation and, slowly, one by one, imagine the different actions you could take.

6. As you bring these different possibilities and their related actions to mind, notice what feedback you get. Take mind of the thoughts, images, emotions, and sensations in your body.

7. If you explore a particular possibility and feel nothing, that is an indicator to let that option go.

8. Your body will give you a resounding “yes” when you have hit upon what may be a good decision. Spend a few moments sitting with that decision and confirming that it feels right.

When you feel complete with this practice, intentionally come back to your breathing. Close out the practice with a feeling of gratitude for yourself for taking this time to practice. Intentionally release the meditation with an exhale, and return back to your day.

Related: Find the Confidence to Celebrate Your Successes

The Next Step: Take Action

Now it’s time to put your insight from the meditation into practice. Given your question, I want to share a few reflections on how you can frame this stage of the practice.

As human beings, we must accept that we cannot take in an unlimited amount of data about a given situation. We do not have infinite computing capacities, and in most circumstances we are also bound by time. Overthinking a situation can lead to inaction, as we may become frozen.

But life constantly invites us to act. In that action, we must do our best to hold healthy and ethical intentions, consider the available data we have from all sources, decide, act, and ultimately trust that we can be with whatever the outcome is, no matter how difficult. We must also acknowledge and release what is forsaken in our choices. It is our duty to accept that we may miss the mark and to take responsibility when we do, recognizing mistakes as learning opportunities.

Stepping into responsibility like this can absolutely be scary and overwhelming. However, choice and responsibility are what makes our freedom possible.

Warmly,

John

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Unless you are seeking commitment from your beloved, this cosmic energy is not very favorable for love and relationship. Weak Mercury is likely to impair communication, so even the best and most sincere efforts may not yield positive results. A confrontation is likely to surround you, putting you in a truly awkward position. Just remember that it’s important to stand up for what you have always considered to be right. On a positive note, you’ll make important decisions and have the power to lift yourself from the past and start things all over again. With the passage of time, you’ll be able to look back and understand that the decisions that you make now were for the best. However, be mindful that the prevailing Kaalsarp dosha is likely to bring unforeseen expenses this month. It’s best to remain prudent if you’re investing in the stock market.

The Hindu month of Bhadra is going on, and the period of Pitru Paksha, which is also known as Shraddha, is September 13-28. The auspicious Hindu festival of Navratri begins on September 29.

Monthly Mantra: “Om Dum Durgayei Namaha”

Pronunciation: Om doom-door-gahei-nahm-aya

Meaning: Salutations to the bestower of compassion, fearlessness, and patience.

SUN SIGN OF THE MONTH

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Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Virgo is the sixth sign of the Zodiac. It is ruled by Mercury, the planet of confidence, logic, and communication. The symbol is the Virgin, a mark of purity and innocence. If you apply the idea of purity to the psychological and emotional life, you can see how a Virgo native approaches life. A Virgo seeks purity in those around them, whether that is their friends, partners, or any other relationship. A Virgo native also believes in purity of the mind, body, and soul. Hence, they are highly inclined toward spirituality and tend to be good astrologers, healers, nurses, and dietitians. A Virgo native possesses enormous analytical powers and has a very strong memory as well. They are also known to be perfectionists in their work, but when they turn negative, they can sow the seeds of self-destruction.

A Virgo male is intelligent, hard-working, confident, and truly devoted to his work. He has the ability to complete the most difficult task in the least possible time. He is sincere in everything he does, refusing to rest until he completes his work to his satisfaction. A Virgo male is humble, self-controlled, and kind-hearted and may go out of his way to make others happy. He likes to stay abreast of the newest innovations in science and technology and often possesses the latest gadgets.

A Virgo woman has a pleasing personality. She is elegant, sensual, graceful, sincere, candid, and honest, and looks much younger than her age. Her charm and magnetic personality appeal to just about everyone. No other zodiac sign tends to give more in a relationship than a Virgo woman does. Perhaps that’s why she is extremely good at making friends and keeping relationships. Athletic by nature, she is fond of sports and outdoor activities. Indoors, her special decorative touches can improve any setting. Although a Virgo female can be stubborn and jealous at times, overall she strives for excellence in everything she does—anything less is never acceptable.

This September, with full moon in your sign, it’s best to concentrate on your work, which promises rewards in the long run. You will acquire new skills, gather valuable information, and handle additional responsibilities on behalf of your boss, leading to connections with important people. Finances will improve thanks to returns from past investments. At the same time, having insufficient time to spend with your beloved will cause your love life to suffer.

Lucky Days – Wednesday
Lucky Dates – 4, 10, 16, 27
Lucky Gemstone – Emerald

Virgo Celebrity: Prince Harry, Cameron Diaz, Warren Buffett, Michael Jackson, Salma Hayek, Greta Garbo, Keanu Reeves, Claudia Schiffer, Tommy Lee Jones, Charlie Sheen, Sophia Loren, Beyoncé

Ruling Planet: Mercury
Symbol: The Virgin
Element: Earth
Lucky Colors: Green, Yellow, White
Lucky Stone: Emerald
Best Professions/Fields: Computers, Teachers, Finance, Auditing, Restaurant, Entertainer
Body Part: Abdomen
Good Points: Ambitious, Dynamic, Skillful, Sharp Memory, Business-Minded
Bad Points: Selfish, Critical, Hasty, Sensitive
Soul Mates: Taurus, Capricorn
Just Say No: Aries, Leo, Pisces

MONTHLY HOROSCOPE FOR EACH SIGN

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Aries (March 21 to April 19)

Ruled by planet Mars, you will find yourself being active, energetic, creative, and making a few bold decisions. Although heavy work-related expenses will cut into your profits, September will be a good month, earning you respect and fame from those around you. They will appreciate your systematic approach to life, and the few decisions and events that seem unfavorable in the moment will eventually bring you lots of gains. Things will be cordial with your lover, and the additional attention that you receive this month will make your relationship very exciting. Long journeys and pilgrimage are also on the cards for some of you.

Lucky Days – Saturday
Lucky Dates – 5, 10, 19
Lucky Gemstone – Red Coral

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Taurus (April 20 to May 20)

There’s much to look forward to this month. The jobs that you handle will be fun and exciting, helping you enjoy your daily routine, the challenges that you face, and the people you meet. You will be dependable and trusted to keep secrets of your own and those of your friends and associates. The contacts that you develop will prove highly important for your career growth. Your income will be excellent, however, avoid any risky or speculative investments. The middle of September will prove to be significant, especially for those in creative fields like education, culture, and arts. Those with a spouse will be showered with love and affection by their cooperative partner.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 2, 6, 12, 28
Lucky Gemstone – Zircon

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Gemini (May 21 to June 20)

You will remain very popular among your peers because of your helpful nature. Your work will be intellectually challenging and put you in touch with interesting and dynamic people. Take advantage, as the more you associate with others, the better your income will be. Just be sure to execute all your contracts with extreme care and after consulting experts. Investments that deal with property will be highly lucrative, and the journeys you undertake this month will help you yield excellent returns. However, your health will be a matter of concern.

Lucky Days – Sunday
Lucky Dates – 7, 18, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Jade

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Cancer (June 21 to July 22)

You will be endowed with remarkable imagination and intuitions, but you need to control your tendency to be stubborn, vindictive, and moody at times. A few changes in your workplace will create a favorable environment to increase your productivity and income. New partnerships and ventures are likely later this month, and your total earnings will be much better than you imagine. Journey to a distant place will bring new opportunities and help you establish important contacts. Sudden gains through a bonus or dividend cannot be ruled out. Although parents may be a bit upset with their children, otherwise home life will be pleasant.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 3, 11, 21, 30
Lucky Gemstone – White Diamond

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Leo (July 23 to August 22)

This September, time will mean money for you. Your overall career success will depend entirely on your good organizational skills. You will be popular, and close friends and associates will seek your advice on investments. Although travel will be important for advancing personal affairs, you’ll still find time to pay more attention to family matters. You need to stay away from secret agreements and affairs, as these may cause major setbacks.

Lucky Days – Sunday
Lucky Dates – 5, 15, 28
Lucky Gemstone – Garnet

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Libra (September 23 to October 22)

This month, with sign lord Venus conjoined with Mercury, you will have superior imagination. You will travel a great deal due to work, yielding favorable outcomes. You’ll not only meet exceptionally interesting people; there will be remarkable opportunities that will bring you gains much beyond your expectation. Be conservative in your spending and avoid gambling or making any risky investments. Your relationship with your spouse or a close relative may be tense for some time, but eventually things will return back to normal.

Lucky Days – Friday
Lucky Dates – 3, 15, 26
Lucky Gemstone – Opal

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Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

As long as you control your tendency to be spendthrift, reckless, and stubborn at times, you will easily charm others with your words and actions and enjoy a special respect in your group. This September, expect excellent rewards for your work. Your income will rise, and you will make some good long-term investments. You’ll also celebrate your success in a special way and spend more on comforts and entertainment. You will establish a better understanding with your beloved, which will make every moment that you spend together a truly memorable one. The health of your parents may cause concern and anxiety. Spiritual gains for some later in the month cannot be ruled out.

Lucky Days – Tuesday
Lucky Dates – 8, 14, 25
Lucky Gemstone – Red Coral

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Sagittarius (November 22 to December 21)

Due to strong Jupiter, you will be fond of adventure, having no problems in accepting challenges. A steady rise on the career front brings earnings that exceed your expectations, keeping you very satisfied. You will help those who approach you for assistance, and later in the month you are likely to get involved in construction or renovation for yourself or others. Matrimonial alliances for some cannot be ruled out, and those with children will be supported and hear happy news toward the end of the month. However, avoid getting involved in any legal complications, as judicial matters might not bring in the desired results.

Lucky Days – Thursday
Lucky Dates – 6, 10, 22
Lucky Gemstone – Topaz

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Capricorn (December 22 to January 19)

September is all about improvement for Capricorns: in your health, your work environment, and your home. For yourself, you will take interest in fitness and good hygiene. Changes in your work environment bring satisfaction and increased earnings, however, it will be essential to save. You’ll also interact with important people who will help you in your career. Later this month, you’ll turn to renovation, construction, and pilgrimage. Your beloved will be in a highly romantic mood and you will have good times together.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 2, 14, 21, 28
Lucky Gemstone – Blue Sapphire

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Aquarius (January 20 to February 18)

People will admire you for your ability to make quick and important decisions, but you need to check your tendency to be moody, impatient, and short-tempered at times. You also need to be more particular about your health and diet this month. Long-pending legal matters will be sorted out to your satisfaction, and your rapport with important government authorities will improve. You will be rewarded for your hard work with a promotion or raise. Matrimonial alliances seem likely for some.

Lucky Days – Wednesday
Lucky Dates – 11, 20, 28
Lucky Gemstone – Emerald

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Pisces (February 19 to March 20)

You will value relationships more than anything else this month and will devote more time and attention in looking after the needs of others than in doing things for self-gain. With new moon in your sign, you are likely to change plans more often than usual. You will work closely with known people who will influence your decisions. With both your earnings and your expenses high, this is a period to stick to your budget. Frequent and fruitful journeys are likely to keep you on the move. Later in the month, the influence of a spiritual person will be a source of inspiration. Your health will definitely need more attention, especially if you have asthma, bronchitis, or high blood pressure.

Lucky Days – Sunday
Lucky Dates – 5, 11, 25
Lucky Gemstone – Ruby

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I’ve been a perfectionist my whole life. I feel like I could always be doing better, and when someone else points out a mistake I’ve made, I mentally beat myself up for weeks. Is there a way to stop this rumination and learn to move on after I make an error or disappoint myself?

Signed,

Little Miss Perfect

Dear Little Miss Perfect,

You raise numerous concerns that speak to our need as humans to do our best, be effective, get things done correctly, and please others in the process. Naturally, when things don’t go as planned, we can get caught in self-blame and feel criticized and judged. If left unchecked, this can make us feel stuck and depressed.

It may help to deepen your awareness of how your thoughts, emotions, and related behaviors act in relationship, so I offer the below method, which draws from cognitive behavioral therapy.

The Thought-Emotion-Behavior Triangle

Usually our experience goes something like this:

1. There is an event that happens to us.
2. We have a thought or thoughts about the event.
3. We have an emotion about what happened and the thoughts we’re having about it.
4. Usually these additional thoughts result in more emotions about what happened, which may fuel further thinking about what happened, which then creates additional emotions on top of the original emotions. This can repeat many times over.
5. This entire chain then leads us to engage in a behavior. This behavior, as well as our thoughts and emotions, can be either positive or negative.

This model can be pictured using the Cognitive Triangle.

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In this triangle, the event is in the center, and in response to that event we have think, feel, and do at each point of the triangle. The arrowed lines of the triangle reflect how each corner of the triangle is in a bilateral relationship to the other corners. This means that by exerting changes on one point of the triangle, we can bring changes to the other sides as well. So, by changing our thoughts, we can change our feelings and behaviors, and the same applies to any combination of the three.

The components of your situation are:

1. Event: someone points out a mistake you’ve made
2. Thinking: “I could always do better”
3. Feeling: disappointment
4. Doing: a) mentally beat yourself up for weeks; b) ruminate

Is the Thought Helpful?

Next, you want to examine these components. Ask yourself:

1. Is the thought “I could always do better” accurate?
2. Is it helpful?

To answer these questions, it may help to see if the thought fits any of the following categories of unhelpful thinking styles:

• Filtering out the positive and letting in only the negative: letting your entire view of the situation be tainted by negatives.
• Jumping to conclusions: fortune-telling or assuming we know what will happen in a situation or what others are thinking.
• Taking things personally or taking on more blame than is warranted in a situation.
• Catastrophizing: assuming a situation is much worse than it is.
• All-or-nothing thinking: viewing a situation as either perfect or completely ruined, or thinking a person is either all good or all bad.
• “Shoulding” (in an unhelpful way). For example, “I should always get things right the first time.”
• Overgeneralizing: assuming what was in the past will always be the way of the present and future.
• Labeling: putting ourselves or others in a “box.”
• Emotional reasoning: making decisions based upon emotional impressions only. For example, if you feel bad, then you may think that anything you do will not feel good or be fun. You let your emotions taint the moment for the worse.
• Amplifying or minimizing: amplifying the positive traits you see in others and minimizing the good you perceive in yourself.

If your thought fits one of the categories, that is good evidence that it is unhelpful and is not serving you in a positive way.

Related: The Surprising Upside to Negative Thinking

Shifting Your Thinking

Having taken time to reflect on your thought, is there another way that you can think about your situation?

For example, can you try removing the word “always” from your thought and get more specific to the circumstance at hand? It is likely that there have been situations in which you could have performed better, as well as situations where you gave your all and that was enough.

Notice how I am specifying the situation’s nature of the thought, rather than generalizing the thought to all situations. “Sometimes” is usually more accurate than “always”. The key is to create a more balanced and realistic thought that does not fall into any of the unhelpful thinking styles above. Take time to workshop your new thought.

Once you come up with it, check how you feel after having that thought. Does your behavior shift also? For example, you may notice that you feel relief, and instead of ruminating and beating yourself up, you simply get on with your day with a clearer mind and a relaxed body.

Another approach is to reframe your thinking about mistakes into learning opportunities. Rather than beating yourself up, can you get curious about how this situation is grist for the mill? What can you learn from it that can lead to greater mastery in the future? This helps move you toward a growth mindset instead of a fixed one.

The last point I’d like to discuss is how to get out of rumination when you are in it. Like anything, there are numerous methods that can be utilized. I suggest a very simple concept called objectifying the thought. (This exercise is from The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook by New Harbinger Publications. Kindle Edition.)

When you notice you are caught in rumination, choose one of those worrisome thoughts and objectify it by visualizing it coming into form: What colors does it have? What shape? If the thought had a smell, what would it be? Is it an object that has a sound? Would this thought have a certain flavor or taste?

By putting the thought into an objective form, you can visualize acting upon it to release it. For example, perhaps the thought appears as a storm cloud in the sky that has lightning and thunder. You can then imagine that by connecting to your breath and using deep breathing, you can blow these storm clouds away and visualize sunlight brightening the now open blue sky.

We covered quite a lot of material. Take time to play with these concepts and practices. Approach this material from that growth mindset with your goal being to learn and grow, rather than worry and dwell. You will know when your process has yielded a good enough solution because you will feel better and freer. Trust yourself.

I thank you so much for writing in and entrusting me with your question. I wish you the best on your journey.

Warmly,

John

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If you find it challenging to focus this time of year, it’s not your fault. Combine the enticements of summertime fun, the tendency to get overheated and dehydrated, and our natural penchant for doing many things at once, and you have a recipe for concentration deficit. This lack of focus makes us less productive and is also a leading source of anxiety.

One primary way to minimize the effects of all our multi-tasking is to set aside some time during the day to unplug from social media and outside inputs altogether. But I want to give you an additional strategy to subvert the effects of all of that multitasking. I want to give you a tool to train your mind to focus better, attend, and be present in an easy and meaningful way.

If you think you are exempt, try this test: The next time you sit down to eat, challenge yourself to be mindful of each and every bite. You will soon discover that even when you think you are doing only one thing—in this instance, eating—you may also be listening to music, chatting, reading, or checking email. So strategy number one is to practice mindful eating once in a while, if not once a day. Even just for a few bites, concentrate only on eating!

Truly training the mind may require a more targeted practice, so I want to offer you two techniques. Think of these together as a reframe, a chance to retrain yourself and increase your ability to concentrate, focus in the moment, and, ultimately, remain focused effortlessly. Scientific studies show that meditative practices like these actually develop parts of the brain used in concentration and focus. It’s like a fitness regimen for the mind: You are building the ability to get present and stay present, training yourself to let go of thoughts as they pop up (and they will always pop up!) and become more immune to distractions overall.

This first technique is simple and requires just minutes a day: Count breathing cycles. Inhale, exhale, one. Inhale, exhale, two. Inhale, exhale, three. And so on. You may be able to get only as far as two or three at first. But with practice, you will improve, and so will your ability to concentrate. Do what you can, and when a thought interrupts, go back to one.

The second technique is this guided meditation. Together we work up to 10 breathing cycles.

What a relief it is to learn that you can control your mind. You don’t have to pay attention to every little idea that pops up or detail of the world around you. For a few delicious moments, you can sit quietly and just notice. When you can be mindful in the present moment at will, your ability to concentrate naturally increases.

Do one or both of these practices daily as a gift of mind-training to yourself. Then get out there and take advantage of all the season has to offer!

Related: 7 Realistic Ways to Approach Mindful Eating

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This planetary position is such that you may feel weak, unexcited, vulnerable, fearful, and overwhelmed. The cosmic energy also indicates a strong need to come to terms with your inner demons. As Sun enters Leo, its own sign, your ego may cause a strong desire to put yourself in a position of superiority and importance in order to achieve success. However, you are likely to struggle and face resistance, opposition, and revolt if you believe that the road to happiness comes by pushing your ideas on others. Instead, be a leader who gets the best out of others by inspiring and motivating them. If you can do this and control your ego, fears, and self-attachment, then success will come your way.

The Hindu month of Sharavan continues this month: August 5 is the festival of Nag Panchami, and August 15 is the festival of Raksha Bandhan.

Monthly Mantra: “Om Namaha Shivaye”

Pronunciation: Omn Nah-mah Shee-vah-yah

Meaning: Salutation to Lord Shiva. May the powers of this creation abide in me in full manifestation.

SUN SIGN OF THE MONTH

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Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Leo is the fifth sign of the Zodiac. It is ruled by the Sun, which is one of the luminaries and is considered the king of the planets. Since the Sun represents the soul and is the source of life on earth, Leos never give up. Their inner strength, self-confidence, and determination mean they easily achieve their desired goals. Leo natives are fearless, active, authoritative, trustworthy, and courageous. They have attractive personalities, charming manners, and generous hearts. They earn success through hard work and merit, and never take the back-door route.

A Leo male is strong, has a sturdy physique, and discharges his worldly duties efficiently. Although carefree and fun-loving, he has a serious approach toward life and performs his work with conviction and dedication. He does not shy away from challenges but is not concerned with petty issues. He is energetic, active, strong, honest, and dependable. Devoted to his principles, he likes to live without controversy. He is frank, outgoing, confident, bold, and risk-taking. A Leo male loves to rule the world and is always hungry for power, fame, and authority.

A Leo woman has a charming personality, elegance, and the grace of a lioness. It is never good to underestimate the power of a Leo woman, as she can bounce back with agility and recover from any loss or failure. She possesses vitality, enthusiasm, and colossal energy. Although frank, open, and true in her opinion, she is a great host and loyal to those she loves. A good organizer, she never runs away from challenges. She has enormous talent and can do especially well as an entertainer, actress, or politician. She is sincere toward her work and likes to be totally involved in everything she does. She achieves great success because she values dedication, loyalty, and hard work.

This August, you will notice improvement in your creativity and ability to solve complicated issues. You are independent, and your systematic approach to life earns you enormous respect from others, but this month, you need to check your tendency to be moody and vindictive at times. You will hold a position of authority at work, and distant traveling will bring enormous gains. You will also gain from new opportunities and work even harder to improve your income. You and your beloved will have some exciting moments together, sharing time, money, and resources, which will help strengthen your bond. Your overall health seems to be fine, but minor issues due to changes in the weather cannot be ruled out.

Lucky Days – Sunday
Lucky Dates – 3, 11, 16, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Amber

Leo Celebrity: Jennifer Lopez, Barack Obama, Sandra Bullock, Leonardo Dicaprio, Ben Affleck, Alfred Hitchcock, J.K. Rowling, Whitney Houston, Madonna, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Mick Jagger, Halle Berry, Robert De Niro, Bill Clinton, Roger Federer, Hulk Hogan, Dustin Hoffman, Sean Penn, Jim Davis, Robert Redford, James Cameron, Pete Sampras

Ruling Planet: Sun
Symbol: Lion
Element: Fire
Lucky Colors: Gold, Orange
Lucky Stone: Ruby
Best Professions/Fields: Politics, Leadership, Management, Administration, Entertaining
Body Part: Heart
Good Points: Independent, Brave, Dynamic, Ambitious, Strong Determination
Bad Points: Arrogant, Egoistic, Overconfident
Soul Mates: Aries, Sagittarius
Just Say No: Libra, Capricorn, Aquarius 

MONTHLY HOROSCOPE FOR EACH SIGN

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Aries (March 21 to April 19)

This month, your creativity will be at an all-time high, and you’ll be very dedicated to your work. While you are very independent by nature and hate outside interference in whatever you do, your colleagues will be exceptionally helpful to you. Many pending jobs will be completed with their help. Your income will be excellent but will fall short of your expectations. However, continue to aim high and work sincerely toward your goals. Your relationships with influential people will improve, and some of those people will do you good favors. At home, a healthier and loving atmosphere will prevail. Some unexpected good news may come your way toward the month’s end.

Lucky Days – Tuesday
Lucky Dates – 2, 14, 27
Lucky Gemstone – Garnet

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Taurus (April 20 to May 20)

This month, you will be highly generous, loyal, and responsible, and enjoy everything you do. You will develop good relations with some of your customers and clients, and work both independently and as a member of an important organization. You’ll also enter many important partnerships and have income from various sources. New skills acquired during this period will help your career, and a sharp memory will enable you to do things to perfection. Your loved one will bring you lots of gifts and presents. Matrimonial alliance for some cannot be ruled out.

Lucky Days – Friday
Lucky Dates – 1, 7, 15, 25
Lucky Gemstone – Zircon

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Gemini (May 21 to June 20)

Once you form an emotional attachment, it lasts forever—you never waver in showing your affection to the ones you love. This month you will be the center of attraction wherever you go and are likely to form new relationships. You will draw members of the opposite sex toward you. You are simple and creative, and possess the ability to handle complicated tasks very easily. Your skills and knowledge will bring you enormous gains. You will be the leader of your team and be valued for your leadership qualities and creativity. Traveling will be highly pleasurable and educating. Avoid lending or borrowing money during this period, however, real estate transactions will yield favorable results.

Lucky Days – Wednesday
Lucky Dates – 2, 12, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Tremolite

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Cancer (July 23 to August 22)

This August, you will be energetic, confident, and active, and manage your work independently. You are a person of your words, and others will depend on you completely. With new moon in your sign, you can expect some favorable changes at your place of work. You will be in charge of an important project and lead a team of qualified individuals. Financial gains improve as you receive benefits from various sources. You will also make major gains through investments. You and your beloved will enjoy a relationship of deep trust and understanding, but due to your hectic working hours, you won’t be able to spend as much time together as you’d like. Travel and journey, most likely overseas, cannot be ruled out.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 6, 15, 20, 27
Lucky Gemstone – Pearl

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Virgo (August 24 to September 22)

This August you will be confident, dignified, outgoing, and enthusiastic about your work. You will be a star in your group and have no trouble in influencing others, but you need to check your tendency to be erratic, impatient, and arrogant at times. You’ll be asked to make an important decision that will affect your work and daily routine. Your friends and coworkers will play an increasingly important role in your decision making. Be very conservative in your spending and save as much as possible during this period. Participation in cultural activities and events will be educating as well as entertaining, and some will enjoy distant travel toward the month’s end.

Lucky Days – Saturday
Lucky Dates – 9, 15, 26, 30
Lucky Gemstone – Benitoite

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Libra (September 23 to October 22)

Influenced by Venus, you will be active, assertive, practical, dignified, and highly sensitive. As always, you will be very helpful and participate in social work and charity. This August, your reputation will improve and you’ll make many good contacts. Businessmen will see a slowdown in the initial days of the month, but overall work will be excellent. Your beloved will be your best partner, and for those who are uncommitted, the chance of finding someone who appeals to your heart and mind is very strong. An interest in spirituality will make you participate more in religious functions and activities, and long journeys will yield excellent returns.

Lucky Days – Tuesday
Lucky Dates – 4, 16, 28, 31
Lucky Gemstone – Amethyst

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Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Your sign lord Mars makes you trustworthy, emotional, simple, friendly, and warm-hearted. You have a desire for learning and gathering knowledge, which you use to stay ahead in your career. Important alliances are certain for you this August. Your confidence and enthusiasm will be at its peak. Speculation will not bring desired gains, therefore do not squander away your money hoping to earn a quick buck. But finances will improve later in the month, bringing prosperity and happiness at a domestic level. Your friends will be supportive and always come to your side at any moment. An infatuation with a colleague cannot be ruled out.

Lucky Days – Monday
Lucky Dates – 9, 22, 26
Lucky Gemstone – Moon Stone

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Sagittarius (November 22 to December 21)

This August, you will be energetic, spiritual, confident, and very optimistic in everything you do. Your outgoing nature will work to your advantage, as you will gain favors and benefits from important people. You are young at heart and always looking for adventure and thrill, and you will find yourself handling numerous tasks simultaneously. Frequent and fruitful journeys will also be undertaken. However, over-involvement in work could leave you with little time for recreation and other activities. Some changes in friendship may take place later this month. Secret and personal information should not be disclosed at any cost.

Lucky Days – Friday
Lucky Dates – 6, 12, 24
Lucky Gemstone – Opal

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Capricorn (December 22 to January 19)

This August, you will be generous, peace-loving, dashing, systematic, and disciplined, and you will show your creativity in everything you do. With full Moon in your sign, you will possess a very strong willpower and not be afraid of accepting challenges. However, you need to control your tendency to be extravagant, reckless, and moody at times. Do not hesitate to get involved in new business ventures—although gains won’t be immediate, eventually the results will be much more fruitful than expected. You will easily stay ahead of the competition because of your better skills and aptitude. Investments during this period will also yield handsome gains. Distant journey—maybe overseas—seems likely later this month, and you will make new friends through old ones.

Lucky Days – Saturday
Lucky Dates – 4, 16, 21, 30
Lucky Gemstone – Jade

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Aquarius (January 20 to February 18)

This August, you need to be diplomatic, accommodating, and tactful, as you meet new people related to your work. You are blessed with remarkable talents and skills, but you need to curb your tendencies to be stubborn and moody at times. You won’t let anyone or anything stand in your way, completing important projects. You will make gains, making others jealous of your success. Monetary gains are certain through property transactions, and investments will be profitable, but do not celebrate until you have all the money in your hand. Overseas journey or distant pilgrimage seems likely for some.

Lucky Days – Sunday
Lucky Dates – 12, 19, 28
Lucky Gemstone – Ruby

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Pisces (February 19 to March 20)

Due to strong Jupiter, you will be smart, energetic, affectionate, charming, warm-hearted, and creative. You will live up in the atmosphere around you and easily impress others with your intelligent conversation. Financial matters will force you to make some difficult yet important decisions. You need to work to your best ability, as your reputation will be at stake. Focus your energy toward new projects and jobs rather than thinking about past failures. Minor health problems due to work pressure cannot be ruled out. New romantic alliances will boost your spirits later this month, and spiritual gains provide comfort and solace for some.

Lucky Days – Thursday
Lucky Dates – 2, 16, 22
Lucky Gemstone – Topaz

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If a loved one asks something of me, I’m immediately there to help them. Yet I feel that if I asked them for a favor or expressed my true needs, I’d be burdening them. I tell myself I’m fine going with the flow, but then I sometimes feel angst for not asking what I want. What can I do to become more comfortable speaking up about my needs—and not feel like a burden when I do?

Thank you,
A Friend in Need

Dear A Friend in Need,

Thank you for writing in. It sounds like you are a very caring and compassionate person who is there for your loved ones. You are also aware that it is easier for you to give than to receive. Or perhaps it’s more accurate to say that it is difficult for you to ask, and therefore you do not have the opportunity to receive. In either case, I think many readers can relate to your angst.

I can tell you it is no burden for me to contemplate your situation. I also want to reflect to you that writing in about this challenge is a successful step toward moving through your fear. I encourage you to take pause and notice how you feel hearing this feedback. You are not a burden for asking me your question. In fact, reflecting on your question is a growth opportunity for me to think about how I give to others and receive in return.

There are a few areas for you to explore. But first note that usually one’s current belief structure has roots in one’s past. Uncovering that is beyond what I can offer you in a brief article. However, if that idea sparks your curiosity, I recommend working with a psychotherapist to delve into it.

Now, the first area to explore is recognizing that your avoidance of asking for support is essentially robbing you of opportunities to receive the support you need and to overcome feeling like a burden.

In naming the avoidance, the next step is to connect to your courageous self so you can set up opportunities to practice asking others for help and support. Essentially what we are doing here is skill-building, and all skill-building takes practice and more practice until it becomes habit.

Identify safe and kind others in your life of whom you feel comfortable asking. Once you have, it’s best to scale your requests and those whom you ask. This means to start with very small and safe requests from the kindest of people in your life. This will set you up for success that will build your confidence. With each success, you want to raise the stakes by moving up your fear hierarchy to a slightly less familiar person. The result is that you will feel comfortable making requests of whomever you would like.

It will be valuable to track your successes along this path and to use them as counter-evidence to your belief that you are a burden to others. Take time to reflect on the fact that others are responding to your requests positively. Come up with related positive self-statements affirming this new reality that others do care about you and are working to support you. This could be as simple as, “Others care about me and support me.” Then rate the believability of this new statement on a scale from 0 to 10. At first your rating may be lower, but over time, with more success, your rating will likely increase.

Of course, as part of this process you must also be OK when someone says no. The key when we are met with a “no” is not to take it personally. Everyone has a right to say no to our requests, just like we have a right to say no to theirs. Being in relationships is a balance of give and take, so we must be willing to compromise and negotiate in situations where there is not a “yes.” This goes back to the word “practice,” which involves repetition in the service of proficiency and mastery of a skill. Even “no” situations are growth opportunities. They present us with a window into how we work with frustration and how we can channel that energy into further psychological development.

By working with and through your fear, you are strengthening the psychological “muscles” of self-esteem, self-worth, confidence, mindfulness, and interpersonal effectiveness. Each of these domains is important and interconnected to build healthy and meaningful relationships. Furthermore, in learning how to ask for what you need from others, you will unburden yourself and them from the resulting frustration and disappointment that comes with being unfulfilled.

Related: Are You Over-Communicating in Your Relationship?

I hope you find these suggestions helpful. In implementing them, it will be important to practice patience, compassion, and kindness toward yourself and others. If you would like to delve deeper, I would recommend working with a cognitive behavioral therapist who can support you as you navigate this process.

I wish you the best and thank you for writing in!

Warmly,
John

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When I first discovered I was pregnant with my son, I went through the full gamut of emotions—excited, nervous, terrified, anxious, and elated. I prepared his nursery, bought a few onesies, pre-registered at the hospital, took a mildly helpful birth class, and considered myself ready.

I had 17 years of meditation practice under my belt going into motherhood. I figured, how different can motherhood be from the other upheavals of everyday life? How hard will it be to meet life with presence and awareness with babies, when I have been training at it for so long?

Turns out, extremely different, and extremely hard. In my experience of having two kids 15 months apart, I can say that motherhood hit like a semi-truck and dragged me down a road of complete confusion and disorientation (with a healthy wallop of sleep deprivation) for two years before I felt like I got some of my footing back.

Now that I am somewhat steadier, I want to share my top three pieces of advice, as well as accompanying meditations to help you on your parenting journey. My hope is to help prepare you for this transition or, at the least, assure you that you are not alone.

Parenthood Lesson #1: There Is More to Babies Than Meets the Eye

Mindfulness tip: Forgive yourself and ask for help

It was 2 a.m. My 15-month-old was waking up every three hours with a 103-degree fever. My 3-week-old was refusing to breastfeed, waking up every few hours and screaming inconsolably and almost perfectly coordinated to the moment that I finally got my other son to sleep. My husband screamed into his pillow. I thrust my screaming baby at him and went to sob on the dirty bathroom floor.

Those days, my husband and I battled daily about who was acting more like a baby. The truth was, we both were. We were pouring every ounce of parental energy and care into our children, leaving us feeling parched for care ourselves.

When I stopped thinking of my desire to be cared for as an embarrassing inconvenience and more like a necessity, two things changed. First, I started to be kinder and gentler to myself during the course of the day, forgiving my messy house, my pile of endless laundry, and the fact that I let my son repeatedly lick the side of the garbage pail because it kept him quiet.

I asked myself the question, “What can I do for you right now? How can I cushion this very hard time?” Sometimes that was just a deep breath. Sometimes it was a trip to the coffee shop. It didn’t matter what exactly it was. The self-kindness was all that mattered.

Second, I started asking for help like it was my job. I asked family, friends, local mothers groups, acquaintances, and even Facebook for babysitting, advice, food, and even comfort. I have never been much of a help-asker, but when I started considering the multiple babies in my house (especially my husband and me), and the sheer impossibility of surviving alone, I summoned up the strength to ask. A surprising number of times, people came through. And even when they couldn’t, it still felt good to ask without shame.

Parenthood Lesson #2: You Are Going Through a Massive Change

Mindfulness tip: Try to be patient

Pre-motherhood, I thought that having a baby would be kind of like buying a new couch for my home. It was a big investment. It would bring a lot of comfort to my life. It would require upkeep. But ultimately, I would still be me, and the couch would be the couch.

Instead, having a baby changed the molecular structure of who I am as a person. Being a mother was not just “Yael + baby”. The math of motherhood transformed the being that was “Yael” into someone that was almost unrecognizable. My body was completely different, with new folds and cushions that didn’t exist before. My mind was filled with thrashing to-do lists, new and urgent fears, and a disorienting sense of time passing both too slowly and too quickly.

In my old life, my daily meditation was the place where I centered myself. Now, in the rare moments I could take to formally meditate, I never made it very far out of mental grocery lists and diaper orders. I was reeling, inside and out.

It took a while to realize the colossal change that becoming a parent would bring. I clung to the baby-as-couch idea far after it became clear that motherhood was something much more radical and transformative than I imagined. Realizing this and accepting the grief that came with the death of the old life, I could slowly step into my life with more patience, curiosity, and even surprising joy.

Related: Think You Don’t Have Time to Meditate? Try This

You will not be the same post-babies. Even if you did not give birth to them, you will be transformed in ways you don’t yet see. Try and be patient as your life and your old sense of self dissolves and rearranges.

Parenthood Lesson #3: Your Spiritual Path and Your Life Are Not Separate

Mindfulness tip: Be present

Scrolling through Instagram on maternity leave, a newborn sleeping lightly on my lap, I was awash in jealousy for the gorgeous photos of people doing yoga on distant beaches, emerging bright and glowing from meditation retreats. I was aware of the irony of that jealousy, since for decades I had felt it while looking at photos of people in my exact situation with newborn babies, but there you go. Jealousy isn’t exactly obedient to logic.

I met with a spiritual director during this time. After listening to me whine about missing my practice and wishing I could go on a retreat, she looked me in the eyes and said, “Yael, your spiritual life is not different than your real life.” I felt the truth of it hit me like a lightning bolt. Of course! I was looking for wisdom and insights and freedom everywhere except right where it has always been—in the present moment. Life, as it is.

Re-adjusting my vision to see my life with the babies as my practice, I started noticing a lot. I saw the pain and the beauty of impermanence as my sons grew out of their clothes and learned new skills. I felt the vulnerability and the heart-expanding love beyond the borders of the self when staring in their eyes or holding their tiny warm bodies. I felt the suffering of resisting life when I clenched up against the unfolding of my life as a mother, and the release of that suffering when I softened into it and opened up to the flood of feelings underneath.

Related: The Healing Power of Self-Care Through Ayurveda

Your spiritual life is your everyday life. The two are not separate. If you notice you are fighting with life, pushing against the truth of how things are, escaping into your phone or running away in your mind, see if you can gently, courageously come back to the present moment. Even if it’s painful, you will suffer less and notice more. Life is right here, waiting for you.

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